The Ina Wave by LELO is part of the Curated Collection Inspired by Anne Stagg
I imagine that orgasms are like snowflakes, no two people and no two experiences are exactly the same. Our bodies come in different sizes and shapes, and so does our pleasure. Some folks have an easy time finding that release and some struggle. I’ve traveled along that spectrum as I’ve grown older, coming with ease when I was younger and then struggling as life and age necessitated re-learning my own body.
So, when I first read that the Ina Wave by Lelo was designed to produce a paradigm-shifting “blended” orgasm, I was intrigued. What is a “blended” orgasm? It’s an orgasm that you coax out through massaging both your external clitoris and your G-spot (your internal clitoris).
But more on that later.
The Basics. Lelo is a company that started in a living room in Stockholm and grew to design some of the most beautiful sex toys I’ve ever seen. The Ina Wave is one of those toys. It’s a simple and sleek, made of body-safe, phthalate-free silicone and ABS plastics. An ergonomic handle makes it easy to hold and the 10 vibration patterns can vary in intensity from a murmur to a rumbling pulse. It’s even waterproof to one meter, so you can play in the bath or shower.
What makes the Ina Wave special (and capable of delivering on its promise of a “blended” orgasm) is that it was designed to maximize sensation for folks with a vulva (the parts of the genitals that are outside the body of someone born with a vagina).
The clitoris and the g-Spot in folks with a vulva and vagina. The clitoris, for those of us with one, is part of the vulva. The external part of the clitoris is a hooded, small (or large) pearl of tissue. It sits above your vaginal opening where your inner labia meet. But the part that you can touch is just the tip of the proverbial iceberg. There is a network of clitoral tissue that lives beneath your skin and surrounds your vaginal opening.
Ever heard of the G-spot? That internal network of nerve-rich tissue that makes up your clitoris is the G-spot. It’s less of a spot and more of an area.
How do you find it? Funny you should ask, because the Ina Wave is a great tool for just that purpose.
The Ina Wave has two arms; the larger arm is called the pleasure point. It vibrates and moves in a “come hither” waving motion, designed to massage your internal clitoris from inside your vagina. The external arm sits right on the external part of your clitoris. This amazing toy gives you the option of turning on the pleasure point or the external clitoral stimulator or both.
Finding the “blended” orgasm. Take your time, whether you’re flying solo or exploring with a partner(s). Your clitoris (both the internal and external part) swells a little as you get turned on and intensifies your experience.
The Ina Wave is soft as silk and with a little lube you can use the pleasure point to tease your vulva. Turn it on a low setting and let your anticipation build. Don’t skimp on lube, even if you have an easy time getting wet. You deserve to feel good, and a little slip and slide can be delightful.
When you’re ready, slip the pleasure point inside your vagina so the bend in the toy is pointing up, like someone was fingering you with their palm turned up toward the front of your body. Allow yourself to get used to the feeling.
Once you’re ready, turn on the Ina Wave and experiment. “Playing with yourself” may have some rotten connotations, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Play is a joy. Give yourself permission to experience desire without shame or apology.
Using the Ina Wave for anal play and/or if you have a prostate. The great thing about the Ina Wave is that it can be used for anal play as well. I’m a cis-woman and I’ve used the Ina Wave as both a vaginal and an anal toy, so the following is based on that experience. That being said, the Ina Wave isn’t just for cis-women. If you’re a trans woman or identify as non-binary and have a prostate, this toy has the potential to deliver incredible sensation.
If you’ve read my review of the Rio Anal Vibe by VeDO then you know the three tenants of anal play: start small, go slow, and use lots of lube. Give yourself time to explore and love your body. It is an empowering experience. Enjoy the journey as you relax the muscle of your anus. A lower intensity on the Ina Wave’s pleasure point delivers an incredible massage. Using fingers to stretch yourself open is also a great way to prep your body for the Ina Wave. When you’re ready, use lots of lube, and slip the toy inside your body. Remember to go slow. The bulb of the pleasure point widens quickly.
Experiment with the depth of penetration. If you have a prostate, then play with the varying intensity of wave and vibration as the toy massages you from the inside. The external arm will touch your perineum and stimulate your prostate from both sides.
The Final Word. The first time I tried out the Ina Wave I went straight for the highest intensity on both the pleasure point and the external clitoral stimulator. I came within a few minutes and the orgasm was an eye-crossing, thigh-shaking experience. It was great, but there really was no time to savor it.
I’m a big fan of enjoying the journey, being mindful of the here and now. The next time I pulled out the Ina Wave, I slowed down and let the different sensations reverberate through my body. I teased and took my time and when I came it was a paradigm-shifting, trembly experience. That sweet, clenching orgasmic feeling shook my entire pelvis. It was like every nerve ending was set alight. I’ve had my fair share of orgasms. This was a new, more intense experience and it stuck with me for hours afterward.
I cannot recommend the Ina Wave by Lelo enough. It is a gem in looks, design, and use and it delivers on its promise of pleasure in a way that is unique among the different types and styles of rabbit-style vibrators. Enjoy.
Be Well, Be Wonderful, and Above All, Be You.
Bonus Erotic Fantasy Fiction by Anne Stagg
You’ve always thought about being watched while you masturbate. You want to know what it would be like to stroke your nipples or tease your clit while a lover observed. The idea of unapologetically claiming yourself and having another person to bear witness to your pleasure thrilled you.
The subject came up one night as you lay in bed with your lover, legs tangled together, whispering in the dark. You described your fantasy and they agreed to make it a reality right away, excited to take part in an experience you craved. Once you had agreed on a date you had fallen on each other, both ravenous for touch after talking through what you hoped would be an incredible sexual experience.
Now, you’re together in your room. You’ve stripped until all you’re wearing are your wicked curves and your skin is glowing in the soft light of the bedside lamp. Your lover is naked as well, their prick hard, a healthy flush on the apples of their cheeks.
A frisson of excitement ripples down your spine.
“Where do you want me?” They ask.
“Beside me, on the bed.”
“Up close and personal, but no touching you, right?”
“Right,” you brush your lips over the shell of their ear, “Watch me. I want you to tell me what you see.”
They shiver, “And I can’t touch myself, either.”
Your smile is wide, full of mischief, “Nope. Tonight, your cock is all mine. If you’re good for me, I’ll ride you later. How does that sound?”
“Can I have just one kiss?” The boundaries of your play had been discussed
beforehand. They were to serve as a witness and a supplicant in your scenario. You are in control of both your pleasure and theirs.
Taking their mouth in a rough kiss, you flaunt your dominance, flicking your tongue in and out of their mouth, until you break away. It pleases you to see their eyes glazed and their chest heaving.
The weight of their gaze is tangible, like a caress. You tilt your head back, showing off your neck and arching your back.
“Your breasts are perfect,” they say. Your fingers play over the skin, stopping to scrape your nails over your nipples. A hiss rises in your throat at the sweetness of the sting.
You explore yourself while they narrate, their voice hoarse with desire. Every word that drops from their lips is like a touch, in and of itself, and drives your passion higher.
Taking up the vibrator you’ve chosen for the night, you kiss the tip and your lover
shudders. It’s candy-pink and sleek, with a longer arm that promises to massage you from the inside and shorter arm that will tease your clit.
You spread lube over the toy, caressing it like your lover’s shaft.
“Fuck, it’s like I can feel your hands on me,” they groan, their hips twitching. An aborted thrust grazes your thigh.
“Watch where you point that thing,” you say.
You laugh together. When your eyes meet, the laughter trails off, replaced by the sound of breath, the air between you charged with anticipation.
There’s a rosy blush that’s spread from your cheeks, down your neck. Teasing your outer lips with the toy, you press the waving arm to the opening of your sex. Your lover’s tongue darts out to wet their lips as they watch you plunge the toy into your body in one slow, deliberate movement.
When you turn the toy on, the vibration combined with the smooth undulation of the internal arm sends tendrils of delight snaking along your limbs.
Your release builds like a storm gathering. A natural force that will crash over you,
sweeping you away like a leaf in a gale. Your breath hitches and your eyes close, as you savor the shuddering power you’ve unleashed.
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